As we explore our manifestation tool for this month, I invite you to keep an open mind. If it’s been a while since you’ve felt turned on by the thought of sex, don’t worry. Once you set an intention to tap into your sexual energy, your body will release hormones and other biochemicals that will help get you there. And I think you’ll agree that sexual energy is one of the most potent forces in the universe. Think back to the feeling of being physically attracted to someone you just met. It can feel like a jolt of electricity that makes your heart beat faster and gives you butterflies in your stomach. Maybe just maybe, you even feel a flutter in your yoni.
Scientists have studied this phenomenon of falling in love (or lust), and have found it actually is triggered in part by the biochemistry of your body. A study on the Biochemistry of Love explores the role oxytocin plays in creating love bonds. Using the example of the love we feel for a newborn infant, the authors write “preliminary evidence suggests that simply the presence of an infant releases oxytocin in adults. The baby virtually ‘forces’ us to love it.”
The same is true of sexual energy. “Sex is the greatest invention of all time,” write the creators of the Science & Society Series on Sex and Science, where the study on the biochemistry of love was featured “Not only has sexual reproduction facilitated the evolution of higher life forms, it has had a profound influence on human history, culture and society.” And I might add, it can have a profound influence on your life as well.
Sexual energy is magnetic. Consider animals and what happens when they go into heat. They release pheromones that attract their mates to them. This is true in all kind of species, even humans. One study found that women who wore perfume laced with pheromones reported a 50 percent increase in sexual attention from men. But you can create these pheromones naturally and use them to attract much more than a sexual partner.
This where the magic comes into play, and there is no scientific explanation for that. Seeing is believing. So let’s start with a simple thought experiment. Close your eyes and think about your yoni. Pause and do that right now. Do you feel anything? Often all it takes to trigger the biochemistry of turn on is paying attention to this part of your body that is too often neglected.
If you’re feeling numb despite focusing your attention on your yoni, try caressing her, paying special attention to your clitoris. What do you feel now? Are you experiencing any flutters? Depending on your level of connection with your turn on, you can continue touching yourself until you either reach the point of orgasm or simply reconnect with the sexual part of you.
The orgasmic feeling that you experience when you touch your yoni is a high vibration energy that resonates with the divine and the magic that creates worlds. When you combine that orgasmic energy with your imagination focused on the object of your desire, magic happens. It’s as simple as that.
Layla Martin has coined this practice sex magic. Meditation guru Emily Fletcher has rechristened it pleasure prayer, the term we are using. The well-known sex educator Emily Morse describes it as the three M’s: Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest. In a recent New York Times article, she explains it this way:
You meditate for a few minutes, you get in the zone, then you masturbate, and at the height of orgasm, when your sexual energy is at a peak level and you’re at a clear state to transmute whatever you believe into the universe — it’s very potent, clear energy at that moment to think about and feel what it is that you want. …if in that moment you can feel what you want, picture it, it has powerful resonance.
Here’s an example of how it works. Margot, who was part of the first Rebirth Journey, decided to do a pleasure prayer by laying out under the full moon one night. While caressing her yoni, she imagined how she wanted the next day to unfold. She was planning to see a man she desired, but was unsure of his feelings for her. What’s more, she had no idea how the day would go. Would he come to her or would she go to him? What would they do when they got together? Most importantly, what did she really want?
Once she was feeling turned on, Margot began imagining her day. She savored the process, actually feeling the excitement of her dreams coming true. Eventually she orgasmed and went to sleep in a high vibration, feeling as if everything she imagined had actually happened.
The next day not only did her man come to her, but she received everything she fantasized about under the light of the full moon, and so much more. “It was like I had written out a script of what I wanted and he played the role beautifully. But he was kinder and more attracted to me than ever. It truly felt like magic!”
While Margot used the practice to attract a man, you can use a pleasure prayer to attract anything you want into your life and feel more vibrant and alive in the process. What is it that you truly desire? Try caressing your body, feeling that sense of turn on, and then imagining what it is you want. You might just be amazed at what happens next.
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